ABOUT YOU

You may have arrived here out of curiosity, hope or as a last resort. 

Perhaps you are trying to overcome barriers and living in a never-ending circle, 

not moving in the direction you want to - going round and round.  

These blockages may be clear to you or perhaps you can’t put them into words but what you do know is...

‘this just doesn’t feel right’ 

It’s affecting many or all aspects of your life. 

Feelings of not being seen, heard or understood by friends, family, partners, tutors, your boss, your staff, your colleagues - or even counsellors...where things just didn’t seem the right fit. 

You might not understand these feelings or why you're seemingly repeating the same patterns of behaviour 

over and over again - never getting anywhere, never 'getting over it' (as some might say)...

never feeling free - preventing you moving forwards.

You might be very aware of the experiences, events, emotions and relationships holding you back - recovering from and/or still experiencing abuse, bereavement, addiction, trauma (including toxic relationships and sexual trauma), experiencing major life changes, health diagnoses and ongoing physical pain, loneliness, toxic work-place dynamics & blame culture, curiosity about your sexuality and/or your gender.

All of these aspects or any at all - seemingly large or seemingly small, can affect your whole being, 

your self-esteem and your ability just to function - whether they occurred in the past or they’re happening 

right now, as you read this, blocking you, 

holding you back from a life that perhaps you can only dream of. 

You may experience the world differently to how other people live - not seeming to process things the way they do, being missed by people who just don’t ‘get’ you and on the other hand...

you always seem to notice actual, real things in such detail...

things that somehow seem to pass by other people’s awareness. 

Perhaps your way of living has been matched with a diagnosis reflecting this, or 

perhaps you’re starting to wonder why it feels like this all the time.  

Maybe there's more to why you are struggling to cope with this way of living.  

It’s so much more than anxiety or overwhelm – these racing thoughts getting in the way of your whole life...sometimes creeping up on you when you least expect it (and at the worst possible times), making life events difficult to manage, breaking your identity...all the while knowing you are more than capable but 

you just don’t seem to fit in with the constraints of 'conformity'...whatever that means.
 

Whether or not some of this sounds familiar, I believe one thing is certain...

the person who knows the most about what has happened, and continues to happen to you...is you. 

The challenge of all this knowledge in itself can be too much to deal with - how and where to start to unravel it all might seem like a mountain to climb.  It’s a needle in a haystack. 

Where do you start? 

If you’re reading this far, you may have already taken the first step. 

You can choose what’s next for you...or ‘us’ if you get a sense that we could work together.

I believe you have the power to grow in a direction that’s meant for you.  

If it feels like you’ve tried everything and see no change in how you are processing things - 

we might begin to address them in counselling.

  There’s no doubt in my mind you already have the tools you need...we just need to see if we can find those tools together - working on which are useful for growth in a new direction.  

This isn't coaching or advice - it's you making the decision to change by coming to counselling 

(or therapy - whatever you’d like to call it), with a trained professional who is focused on you, 

your way of seeing things and your way of processing life.