A GROWING CHANCE FOR CHANGE

I am a BACP Registered Psychotherapist.  I enjoy what I do as a vocation, respecting the demands and challenges this brings. I deeply care about my community, our world and your way of being.

If you are living in a way that feels disconnected from the person you feel you could be, due to past events or current relationships & trauma, have a look around and if you feel we could...perhaps we can make a start.

In considering a way to describe how I work, something that sticks in my mind is a client comment: that of all the counsellors they'd ever encountered, I seemed to be the most 'real', contributing to the most naturally effective counselling experience they'd ever had. But that’s just them - you are you.

My aim is to meet you just as you are - however and whoever you are. 

I believe in your potential for change, working towards helping utilise your tools in reclaiming inner connection if it seems that life has become unmanageable in many, some, or all of its aspects.

Having had extensive personal therapy as part of my training and now ongoing, I fully embrace the consideration of what life might have been like if I'd had counselling as a young man - this being the catalyst for my original journey in becoming a therapist. 

If you have any questions about what it might be like to work together, feel free to get in touch without any obligation for you or expectation from me. 

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Or, if you'd like to contact me now, perhaps we can make a start...

You may have arrived here out of curiosity, hope or as a last resort. Perhaps you're trying to overcome barriers - living in a never ending circle, not moving in the direction you want to...going round and round. 

These blockages might be clear to you or perhaps you can’t put them into words...but what you do know is...‘this just doesn’t feel right’. 

It’s affecting many or all aspects of your life.  Feelings of not being seen, heard or understood by friends, family, partners, tutors, colleagues - or even counsellors, where things just didn’t seem the right fit.  

Not understanding these feelings or why you are repeating the same patterns of behaviour over and over again - never getting anywhere, never getting 'over it' as some might say, never feeling free - all preventing you from moving forwards.

You might be very aware of the experiences, events, emotions and relationships harming you and holding you back - recovering from and/or still experiencing abuse, bereavement, addiction, trauma including toxic relationships and sexual trauma, going through major life changes or loneliness, unhealthy workplace environments with blame culture & negativity, or maybe you are curious about your sexuality and/or gender - all of these aspects and any at all, seemingly large or seemingly small, can affect your whole being, self-esteem and ability just to function...whether they occurred in the past or they’re happening right now as you read this - blocking you and preventing you from living a life you can only dream of.

You may experience the world differently to how other people live - not processing things the way others do.  Being missed by people who just don’t seem to ‘get’ you, and on the other hand...you always seem to notice actual, 'real' things that are happening to us and our world - things that somehow pass by other people’s awareness. How?

Perhaps you’re living with a clinical diagnosis reflecting this or maybe you’re starting to wonder why it feels like this...all the time - maybe there's more to why you are struggling to cope with living like this.  It’s more than anxiety or overwhelm – these racing thoughts getting in the way of your whole life, sometimes creeping up on you when you didn’t notice (and at the worst possible times), making life events difficult to manage, breaking your identity.  

You know you're more than capable - you just don’t seem to fit in with the constraints of conformity...whatever that means.

Whether or not some of this sounds familiar, I believe one thing is certain...

the person who knows the most about what has happened and continues to happen to you............is you.

The challenge of all this knowledge in itself can be too much to deal with - how and where to start to unravel it all might seem like a mountain to climb.   

It’s a needle in a haystack. 

If you’re reading this far, perhaps you have taken a first step. You can choose what’s next for you - or 'us’, in deciding if you might like to work together. 

I believe you have the power to grow towards a direction that’s meant for you.   If it feels like you’ve tried everything and still see no change in how you are processing things - living in a day-to-day washing machine spin cycle of turmoil, perhaps we could make a start.  

I believe that by working with a counsellor change can be possible if the conditions are right for us both.

There’s no doubt in my mind you already have the tools you need...we just need to see if we can find your new life tools together - working on which ones are useful for growth in a new direction, discovering how 

you might overcome the effects of events in the past and consider actually 'living' in the present.

Feel free to contact me with any questions on how this could work and how to get started...